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Dude, I would say that counts (though next time use a condom for anal, too.)

I agree with "rem". Also, per your climax comment, no, you don't have to climax for it to count as losing your virginity. If that were the case, there would be plenty of women (and some men) who started having sex but remained "virgins" well into their sexual life.

I think men and women just need penetration to qualify for losing their virginity. If a climax for a woman was a necessity, guys would all suffer needlessly.

What about lesbians, though? That complicates the "just penetration" idea.

Not stoked that this was printed when the author actually admitted to having any kind of sex (anal or otherwise) WITHOUT protection. This is how ignorance, STDs and HIV/AIDS are spread. Not cool Nerve.

Oh for cryin' out loud. I read stories on Nerve for interesting glimpses into other peoples' lives and thought processes, not for safe sex hints. If no story was ever printed unless it featured smart behavior that was unlikely to hurt anyone emotionally or physically, and presented only good models for citizens of all ages, the tales would be a lot less human, amusing, and poignant. Lighten up, lr.

Lr is totally right. First of all Nerve is printing uniformed, uninteresting material. I mean come on! Are we seriously having the 'do you need penetration for sex to count as sex' debate? I'm a junior in college and I don't know any one who would entertain that topic as worthy of actual debate. FOLKS: penis in vagina is not the only thing that counts as sex. Nerve obviously needs some people who actually know a thing or two about sex working for them. And not only that but they're passing off unsafe sex as a blase topic. Not every story needs to come with a 'use a condom' tagline mpb, but I suggest you and Nerve take a look at some statistics regarding escalating HIV rates among 13-19 year old men in the US. Seriously Nerve, I never thought I'd see the day that your 'exciting' and 'novel' sex information became on par with the crap they dish out in Cosmo magazine.

correct me if i'm wrong, but this article isn't billed as any kind of sex information and it also wasn't written by nerve. this is a user submitted story about losing his virginity. he even cops to his own inexperience. take it as a point for discussion, yes. use it as an opportunity to think "damn it's a good thing people keep learning through their lives," absolutely. but lambast nerve for printing user-submitted stories that ring true? nah, i'll pass.

If that's being debated, it's by internet commentors, not Nerve. Strange passive aggressive comment. Go back to Gawker you angry junior in college.

LR is 100% wrong. Advocating for safe sex is one thing (though safe-sex advocacy sometimes gets way too doctrinaire and reductive, IMHO). But suggesting that Nerve shouldn't print someone's firsthand memories because they include condomless sex? That's NUTS.

i think that technically at the time that his penis entered in any way a female or male given the case, counts as losing his virginity...now for the anal sex part, dude should ve used a condom...but lay off, as he clearly states in his story....he had NO experience

Both parties were virgins, this is how STD's are spread. I see.

Yes, I put up the first comment, but I'd like to ammend it with the definition of "sex" that my friends and I used in college to be as inclusive as possible, "two or more people, one or more orgasms, and/or penetration." If you think about it, that should include all combinations.

What a leap from a kiss, to a fumble & then to anal sex. Not a glorious first time. The fact that you both thought this was the best alternative to plain boring sex. I despair. Unprotected as well. The mind boggles. At least you can remember a kiss with a degree of fondness. Not sure about the other!

I would love to talk to you about this, I'm in your boat. Email me at bkzfinest101@hotmail.com remindingg me who u r, so we can talk bro. Ok?

sex means penetration of the penis into the vagina..anal sex although called anal sex is not really intercourse..

DUDE... Bullshit.