Taking the Pledge
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If you're anything like me, you probably groaned aloud when you first heard of "virginity pledges" — those ceremonies where teens stand up in front of their peers and promise not to have intercourse before they get married. Sponsored by the Southern Baptist Church and other conservative groups, the pledge programs became wildly popular in the mid-1990s. Although they may have tapered off a bit, it's estimated that as many as ten percent of teens nationwide have taken such vows. Now, a Columbia University researcher says they actually work — sort of.


    

There's a lot to dislike about such programs: they're sex-phobic, controlling and retrogressive. As a gay man who is not even allowed to marry the person I love, I don't much like the notion of resurrecting St. Thomas Aquinas to set our national moral agenda. And while I know there might be practical benefits for teens who postpone sex — like avoiding STDs and pregnancy — such programs seemed doomed to failure. How could just signing a scrap of paper turn wishful thinking into reality? It sounds like show-boating, not genuine social change.


    

Sociologist Peter Bearman was skeptical himself when he began his study, but his results (just published in the American Journal of Sociology) offer some limited evidence that the programs work. Bearman analyzed data from over 90,000 students who had been studied as part of the NIH-funded National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health. He found that, on average, taking a virginity pledge causes a teenager to defer his or her first act of sexual intercourse by eighteen months.


    

Eighteen months may not seem like much — "until marriage" it certainly isn't. But it's a lifetime in the breakneck world of teen culture. If all the nation's teens put off sex by this amount, a major drop in teen pregnancy and STDs would surely follow.


    

At the same time, Bearman had to qualify his finding in important ways. The pledges were only effective for younger adolescents, not for those over seventeen. Pledges lost their effectiveness if too many students in a given school — more than about forty percent — took the pledge. And, more disturbing, when pledgers did finally engage in intercourse, they were significantly less likely than non-pledgers to use contraception.


    

One potential problem of Bearman's results is the possibility that they were caused by what statisticians call a "selection effect." In other words, perhaps the pledgers were already more likely than non-pledgers to remain virgins before they agreed to participate in the program, in which case the pledge itself may not have had any extra effect. This could potentially explain why increasing the percentage of pledgers in a school decreases the effectiveness of the pledge: the more students who are recruited, the larger the fraction of them who are not strongly motivated to remain virgins will be.


    

Bearman believes that he has ruled out selection effects. The reason why pledging works best when only a minority of students take the pledge, he says, is that it creates an "identity movement" — a group of individuals who gain identity, purpose and self-esteem from their group membership. Such identity movements lose their psychological effectiveness when they no longer have minority status. For this reason, Bearman says, the virginity pledge programs can never be effectively expanded to cover the majority of teens, a major limitation for the movement.


    

For an outside view, I spoke with Doug Kirby of ETR (Education, Training and Research) Associates in Santa Cruz, California. Kirby is a sociologist who has prepared a major study of adolescent sex behavior for the National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy. Abstinence-only programs have never been shown to reduce unwanted pregnancy or STDs, Kirby told me, so he was surprised by Bearman's findings. While he found them "moderately persuasive," he noted that the possibility of a selection effect hadn't been fully ruled out.


    

What have been proven to be effective, Kirby says, are school programs that combine encouragement of abstinence with education about contraception and how to avoid STDs. Promoters of the virginity-pledge programs tend to avoid any discussion of these topics, since they believe that discussing safe sex encourages sex itself. Kirby cited Bearman's finding that the pledge-takers are less likely to use contraception as the unfortunate consequence of this point of view.


    

Myself, I remain skeptical about the abstinence movement. Still, I have to concede two facts: teens are relentlessly bombarded with sexual messages, and early sex has negative consequences for many. If teens want to avoid these consequences by vowing to remain chaste, why should anyone discourage them?


Commentarium (7 Comments)

Jan 23 01 - 3:17pm
eee

I grew up in the rural midwest, where these pledges were shoved down our throats the moment we turned 14. Almost all of my class took this pledge as freshmen...ha. I'm thinkin' they'd be more effective if they were renewable on Sunday mornings. Weekends can be such trials.

Jan 24 01 - 9:21pm
REB

To this day, the thought of these virginity pledges absolutely infuriates me. The anti-sex crusaders cramming their "Sex is naughty, filthy, disgusting and sinful" tripe down the throats of our nation's children (and anyone else they can get their grubby little hands on) and seemingly successfully keeping any type of sex-positive education out of our schools is, in my humble opinion, one of the greatest travesties we face today. And I've often wondered just how many of the kids taking these pledges end up doing so out of submission to peer pressure instead of a true faith in what they are promising. Seems I was right to wonder. And I've heard mention that many of these kids skirt the issue by only refraining from penile/vaginal intercourse, while wholeheartedly engaging in oral and anal sex as substitutes. I applaud those who make these pledges with the purest intention of honoring that pledge, and even those who may take it and later decide to recant upon realizing it's not something they can stick to. But I have nothing but contempt for those who take it with no intention of even attempting to honor it, but I suppose they're learning their hypocrisy from those who know it best - the self-righteous, fundamentalist "Family Values" charlatans who couldn't keep their hands out of someone elses' pants if the Almighty her/himself tied those same hands behind their backs. I waited until rather late by today's standards to enter the sexual fray (I was 19 and out of high school before I had my first kiss), entirely by my own choice, and I didn't need any piece of paper to prove to anyone else that I wasn't ready to have sex. When I was ready, I was ready, and embraced that readiness with a pssion (no pun intended), and those who thought and still think me an evil sinner could and can keep their morality where it belongs - in their own minds, homes and places of worship.

Jan 28 01 - 12:07am
JC

I made such a virginity pledge as a teen. At the age of 27 I am not married and remain a virgin. I continue to wear my "promise ring" that I asked my parents for. I think we don't always give people enough credit...or enough encouragement to stick to commitments made.

Jan 30 01 - 1:21pm
MG

Why is sex so important?
Sex doesn't confirm love for someone else, it consumates it after one has made the lifelong commitment of marriage. Sex before marriage is often with lust and lacking commitment. However, I don't want to make too broad a generalization here. There are commited people who have sex and are not married. I apologize (because someone has to) if the absitnence message was crammed down your throat. But the safe-sex movement can be a little brash. Persoinally, I think it does provide an escape one's moral resposibilities. This is what's best for you, what you should do, what is safest (abstinence) but this is the alternative if you don't want to live up to what's right (safe-sex) Let me say I'm not arguing against safe-sex education but abstinence education doesn't need to be skewed in the process. It was in my experience. Actually I didn't even hear about absitnence in school. I heard it at church. I can think of many children in that same class that probably didn't hear that message. I don't think the safe-sex education encourages responsibility. Condoms don't always work against pregnancy and rarely against STD's. There is only one way to be 100 percent safe. Sex is not evil...only intentions.
God loves you, regardless...

Feb 05 01 - 10:38pm
MVC

I read the reactions of fellow readers with real empathy; in my own case, the notion of "virginity until marriage" is either hilarious or terrifying, depending on your perspective. I'm a 43-year-old woman, alone all my life, who is suddenly loved, delighted and blown away by an adoring and adorable 25-year-old man. He loves me quite completely, including my long past and all my gray hairs.
Having finally found true love, I am so glad that I did NOT refuse sexual experience previously. My experience with my true love is so much richer for the love I have known before.

Aug 14 01 - 5:26am
M.D.

Dear Nerve,

Fistly I must say that I adore this magazine. I feel you are witty and honest which is a relif to me as a young writer, who muses on things other than the boy on the football team and rose gardens. My recently dismissed ex boyfriend is an avid Christian and had vowed from early childhood to remain a virgin until after the blissful union of marraige (*sarcastic snort*). It is a good time to mention that I am sixteen and he is eighteen (also that I'd known him for a long time before dating and this was a serious commitment, not an attempt to get in my pants). However within the first two weeks of dating - we were already heavily engaged in the practice of foreplay. This is two or so weeks formed into oral sex, and finally sex a month later. Now I did not seduce him, nor was it the other way around. It was two very high strung teenagers passionately getting off with each other. I find the higher they are - the harder they fall. Most of the prudish teenage males I know just subject a form of masochism on themselves sexually. These boys really want it but have some silly impression that it's "dirty" "sinful" and "not morally sound". But as soon as the first time a cute little brunette eagar to suck certain bodily members comes along - this change and I get called "irresistable". It's called hormones junior - and as Madonna once said, "Express yourself, Don't repress yourself."

Thanks Nerve, for your intelligence and open minds.
Please keep up the great work - best wishes.

Jan 03 02 - 12:15am
JRT

I hate these stupid abstenince pledges. As a sexually active high school student, I can understand many reasons to abstain, but the people who grew up in Southernbaptistville have no right to shove their religious ideals down the throats of bored teenagers. We are taught nothing but abstinence at our school. There is some middle ground between abstinence and rolling condoms on a dildo in the classroom, and teens like me need to know how to protect ourselves, because many of us are going to do it anyway; I promise you.

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