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10 Better Ways To Flirt With Women
By Brian FairbanksAugust 20th, 2009, 2:55 pmComments (9)
We just came across a well-done DateDaily piece called "Top 10 Ways To Flirt With Women." Out of the seven million or so stories floating around the internet claiming, "No, guys, seriously... this is how to pick up women," this might be one of the better ones...
First, let's look at the Top 10 itself:
Give her the eye
Speak soft & seductive
Ask if she’s coming on to you
Make her laugh
Compliment something about her
Allude to sex
Buy her a drink
Touch her
Tease her a bit
Lick your lips
On the surface, this looks like a load of (cliche-ridden) crap. But Naya Hunter's piece actually expands on these tried-and-true points with some well-written explanations that actually made us rethink our whole "Game." For example:
What do we think of these suggestions? Is this the right mix of forwardness-creativity men need to stand out... or totally offputting?
Via DateDaily.
Commentarium (9 Comments)
Totally off-putting!
Reminds me of the two club-going brothers in that SNL skit from the 90s. I'm surprised "Wear lots of Drakkar Noir" is not on the list.
Absolutely NOT! The licking the lips does draw our attention there, but makes us wonder what in the hell this person is trying to pull - WAY to obvious.
ALSO -- the "Ask if she's coming on to you" bit is SO ANNOYING. You can't trick or guilt a woman into being with you guys.
The best is eye contact, interest and humor w/i a great conversation. And yes, touching helps -- but not too early on, or flags go up.
Allfathersdotter has it exactly right. The touching, later on, is best when done naturally and in the context of interesst, humor and great convo. Alas, none of this can be faked, which is the best (or worst) part, depending on your personal talents or lack thereof.
How could they forget "giant handfuls of hair gel" and "a single rose wrapped in cellophane"? Brian's messing with my brain!
uuhh, women are already insecure, why don't you try a sincere compliment for a change.
"What kind of art do you like?" gets me interested every time! "You look like a nerd" just overstates the obvious.
Cosign on the comments of Allfathersdotter and Michael- Please don't ask that "are you coming onto me line?" It sounds smug and cocky. And depending on what kind of ladies you are hitting on, one with a little spunk/feminism in her blood (a-hem, a-hem), thinks that question begs for the response, "NOPE."
Yeah, insulting a woman is never, ever, ever the way to get her to like you.
Flirting is like any other social exchange. Everybody can tell when its happening and there's no secret handshake. Be yourself and if that doesn't work, move on. You will know almost immediately if you stand a chance.