New York Times: more people choosing separation over divorce

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Jann Wenner with Stevie Nicks and Lindsay Buckingham

If you were going to break up your marriage, would you opt for divorce or permanent separation? The New York Times explored the growing movement of people who just can’t be bothered with the expense, hassle and soul-crushing elements of a legal marital split and are opting to just move out and remain friends.

One couple broke up when the husband accepted a job in another state. But it didn’t get ugly:

Technically, the two are married. They file joint tax returns; she’s covered by his insurance. But they see each other just several times a year. “Since separating we get along better than we ever have,” he said. “It’s kind of nice.”

And at 58, he sees no reason to divorce. Their children have grown and left home. He asked himself: Why bring in a bunch of lawyers? Why create rancor when there’s nowhere to go but down? [NYT

I know separations like this aren’t new. (The Times reminds us of the Jann-Jane Webber and Warren-Susan Buffett breakups, neither of which ended in divorce.) But if the Times is reporting on it, that means it actually is a real trend and probably started happening a year or two ago. Feel free to weigh in if you have a similar "we’ll never get divorced" arrangement with your estranged spouse.